Sensitive NLP Coach - Benefits of Coaching

What would you like to be? What would you like to do? What would you like to have? How would you like to feel?

Coaching is about helping people to develop and change. A coach helps you to assess your situation, grow new confidence, and move into the new space you have created through expanding your self-image and your beliefs about what is possible. Coaching puts you in control of the changes in your life. Coaching is practical - it focuses on your aims, goals and the changes you want, and on achieving them step by step. Coaching is also a process of learning about yourself in order to accomplish your aims or goals.

Coaching is time devoted entirely to you - you owe it to yourself to have some! Read on below for more...

The process of coaching is different for each person. Coaching has been called a "designed alliance": the client specifies the issues to be worked. The following overview will give you a sense of what happens.

Coaching begins with listening. Like a counsellor or therapist, a coach listens completely and confidentially, without judging and with unconditional positive regard. Sometimes a client just wants to talk before deciding what issues to work on. Listening remains an important part of the coaching process throughout the coaching relationship. The difference between listening as a coach and as a therapist is that a coach encourages you to focus on the present and the future, not on past problems. This doesn't mean the coach ignores the past. But when you work with the past during coaching, it is usually a quick process to release a block so you can make a change right now. Clients in coaching are generally functioning well, and ready to move forward in their lives. If a person's thinking and feeling is dominated by the past, that person probably needs counselling or psychotherapy.

Using the approaches and tools you can read about in this website, I help people to clarify their aims, discover their purposes and achieve their goals. Along the way I help people to free themselves from the blocks and negative thinking that has been holding them back, and to access greater intuition and insight. Unsure about goals or don't like them? That's OK too - in fact I've written an article about goals in coaching.

Coaching can be one of the most positive learning experiences you can have. You will find yourself thinking and feeling in new ways, being able to take risks, stepping outside your boundaries and gaining more control of your life. Coaching is about getting in touch with the real you and making use of your potential.

If you don't know where to start or what to work on, that's OK because we can find out together. I am interested in the deeper aspects of coaching, so I don't concentrate on decluttering. I help you sort your values, aspirations and motivations, not your old clothes. Once we see what thought patterns, beliefs or stuck feelings are getting in the way of what you want to change, and we do some work on that, you start to do some things differently, and we keep in touch so that you have my support. We work on issues that arise for you as you continue to make changes. And if you want handouts on organising your life, I can give you those too, and coach you through them. The deeper work we do can lead naturally to wanting to make practical and positive changes.

As a coach I ask a lot of questions. I also provide plans and exercises - some people want more structured work than others. I will assign homework between sessions: this could be a question to ponder on, a mental exercise, a questionnaire to complete or a task concerning your everyday life. As well as learning about yourself in the coaching sessions, you learn by doing and making small changes, then bigger ones.

You can let your imagination is an integral part of coaching. Using mental exercises that can let you tap into the information in your subconscious mind, you can discover what is really important for you, what has been holding you back, and the keys to moving forward. Sometimes the information you get from within will appear in symbols or metaphors. As a coach trained in that type of work I can help you to discover powerful inner symbols that can guide you along life's journey.

To encourage you to go beyond your comfort zone, you can agree to accept a challenge. A challenge is a commitment to do something you have not done before, with the support of the coach. What is important is the learning that comes out of acting. There is no failure - a challenge is an experiment and a spur to action. You can succeed more quickly and easily than you thought you would. You can learn that maybe you need to succeed in a somewhat different way, and generate new ideas. You can discover things about your preferences that you did not realise before. Your discoveries will be fed back into the coaching process.

I work with the whole person. You may wish to make changes in any area of your life, from work to spirituality. Any major change involves your whole life and it's important to consider the wider implications of what you would like to do. You start where you want, and you start with things that are achievable and within reach. Miracles might take a little longer!

I use various techniques which are described in this website. I also have access to a huge range of coaching worksheets, tools, questionnaires and exercises for self-development and specific situations, and these are used to supplement coaching sessions and as the focus of homework. Many of these tools have been developed by major coaching organisations, some of them by other coaches and some by myself. Many are for use with clients only and are only obtainable through a coach. If you need a tool for a specific need that I don't have immediately, I will do my best to source it for you. As well as coaching tools I can recommend relevant books and websites for you.

If the issue you would like help with isn't in this website, and you know you want coaching, contact me anyway. Many of the methods I use are open-ended: they allow you to make discoveries, no matter what the issue is. Let me know what you'd like to work on and I'll explain what approaches I have that we could use, and how they can help.

Being ready to be coached means that you are reliable, prepared to commit to the process of coaching, and able to pay the fees.

Find out now if you are "coachable" by taking the free assessment that is available as a PDF download

Now, if your score is borderline or too low, all is not lost. Consider whether there is one issue that, if you could change it, would make the difference between being coachable and not being ready for coaching yet. Suppose the issue is "being reliable" - you need to be present in time for scheduled telephone or chat sessions. Counsellors, hypnotherapists and psychotherapists often get a high rate of "no shows", especially with new clients. A 50% no show rate for new clients is not unusual at all - because people are scared and they generate all sorts of excuses not to attend, including just forgetting! Coaching clients are supposed to be more reliable than that.

However, if you have had a pattern of not showing up for commitments, you could decide that now is the time to show your mettle and ask your coach to work with you on this very issue before anything else! Thus an obstacle to coachability can be turned into a reason to be coached and an actual resource that is driving you to get some coaching!

What other unsuspected resources have you got that are crying out "Coach me on this"?

Some forms of helping, such as NLP (Neurolinguistic programming) and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) - both of which I use in my practice - do not buy into the "uncoachable" concept. They presume - just as coaching does - that people are perfect as they are, and that a block really has a purpose it is trying to serve. Just as "forgetting" to attend a session is a protective mechanism rooted in trying to keep a person safe, other issues that seem to get in the way of being coached can be worked with. Often a quick exercise can release such a block and give you more freedom!

If you have such an issue, can you be challenged to talk to a coach about it and see what emerges?

Thomas Leonard, the founder of Life Coaching as a profession, actually taught various strategies to use with clients who appeared "hard to coach". Individual coaches will also have their own favourite approaches such as EFT which is spreading rapidly through the coaching world. So the chances of you benefiting from coaching are really pretty high!

Coaching is not a substitute for psychotherapy, counselling or medical attention. If you have a medical problem, you should consult your doctor. If you have a psychological or emotional problem that is interfering with your work or everyday life, you should consult a suitably qualified professional counsellor, psychotherapist or psychologist. Coaching can be given as a complementary form of help, subject to the assessment of the coach and also, if necessary, to the agreement of your doctor or therapist.

Coaching is not an emergency service for the public. If you have an emergency requiring one of the emergency services (for example police or ambulance), call them. If you wish to talk to someone because you are in a sudden personal crisis, contact the Samaritans or the appropriate emergency help lines or volunteer counselling help lines in your country - you will probably find those listed at the beginning of your telephone directory.

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